Bridal showers, just like weddings, have etiquette guidelines for sending out bridal shower invitations. These should be followed closely for more traditional showers, but can be used to answer any questions the party planner may have.
Commonly, bridal showers are get-togethers for female guests to the wedding. The guests can be from both the bride’s and groom’s side. However, not every female invited to the wedding needs to receive bridal shower invitations. These gift-giving parties are typically for the brides closest family and friends. Etiquette states that every guest to a bridal shower should also be invited to the wedding.
Although they are traditionally for the females, showers that are co-ed are also popular. These allow the groom to attend, as well as other male friends and family. These are also sometimes referred to as couple or Jack and Jill showers. The groom and a few of his male guests may also make an appearance during the shower. Be sure to indicate on the bridal shower invites whether the party will be co-ed.
Many bridal showers are planned as a surprise to the bride. If this is the case, she will not receive a bridal shower invitation. If she does know about it or is helping to plan it, sending her an invitation is not strictly necessary. The invites do make great keepsakes, so be sure to set one aside for the bride.
There may be some guests that will not be able to make it to the shower. Sending bridal shower invitations to them, even though they may not come, is still acceptable. It shows the guest that they are important to the bride and that they should come if it all possible.
Be sure to put all pertinent information on each bridal shower invitation. Showers are typically held one to two months before the wedding, but can be held as far in advance as necessary. There is no etiquette suggesting where the shower should take place. Also, remember to include a phone number, address, and RSVP instructions.
As with save the date cards, send out invitations at least a month
before the shower, and each guest should receive one. Use the formal name of the guests, using titles such as missus or miss. The bridal shower invites should be handwritten. Registry information can be included in the invitation, either printed or handwritten. Do not include the cards that many stores supply when the bride registers.